Quote Me As Saying I Was Misquoted

Junior Doctor. Feminist. Liberal. Music. Mac. Cute Animals.

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Permalink junebouvierr:

idiot
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So, a question, to my fellow male nerds:

What the fuck is wrong with us?

How much longer are we going to be in denial that there’s a thing called “rape culture” and we ought to do something about it?

No, not the straw man that all men are constantly plotting rape, but that we live in an entitlement culture where guys think they need to be having sex with girls in order to be happy and fulfilled. That in a culture that constantly celebrates the narrative of guys trying hard, overcoming challenges, concocting clever ruses and automatically getting a woman thrown at them as a prize as a result, there will always be some guy who crosses the line into committing a violent crime to get what he “deserves,” or get vengeance for being denied it.

To paraphrase the great John Oliver, listen up, fellow self-pitying nerd boys—we are not the victims here. We are not the underdogs. We are not the ones who have our ownership over our bodies and our emotions stepped on constantly by other people’s entitlement. We’re not the ones where one out of six of us will have someone violently attempt to take control of our bodies in our lifetimes.

We are not the lovable nerdy protagonist who’s lovable because he’s the protagonist. We’re not guaranteed to get laid by the hot chick of our dreams as long as we work hard enough at it. There isn’t a team of writers or a studio audience pulling for us to triumph by “getting the girl” in the end. And when our clever ruses and schemes to “get girls” fail, it’s not because the girls are too stupid or too bitchy or too shallow to play by those unwritten rules we’ve absorbed.

It’s because other people’s bodies and other people’s love are not something that can be taken nor even something that can be earned—they can be given freely, by choice, or not.

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vivarian:

'but men have feelings too!'

yes.  we know.  we’ve been catering to them since the dawn of humanity.

(Source: caelas, via lipstick-feminists)

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This is my golden retriever, Gyura.
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shipsnthenight:

I honestly thought, the most depressing, disappointing, frustrating, maddening moment in my fangirling years would have been the ending of NCIS 11x02, forever…

… but then, the series finale of How I Met Your Mother arrived.

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sharmaineinthetardis:

the himym writers must have written the finale after 2AM. nothing good ever happens after 2AM.